It’s wedding season, which means there are likely a lot of single ladies and gents out there feeling the ‘something blue’s’ as other’s are saying their ‘I Do’s.’ Or, if you’re not exactly despondant, you’re probably hoping to sit at the (seemingly sparse) singles table to meet a potential spark of your own- guilty, party of one! Because, if we’re being completely honest with ourselves, as elated as we are for our friends starting the next chapter of their lives it can also be a sobering reminder of the empty pages in our own romance novel.
Somewhere between the gift registry and the open bar, we become so caught up daydreaming about Mr & Mrs Right that we forget to embrace our independence. So, if you’re sans a plus one, like myself, I have some advice: Wait for the relationship that’s right for you.
In a society plagued by the bigger, better deal wait for the person that makes you forget about your phone, who forgets about theirs, because being together is all that matters in that moment. Wait for when you don’t want to post on social media because your happiness doesn’t depend on who else witnesses it.
Don’t let technology become a smokescreen. Wait for someone that calls you because they miss the sound of your voice, who takes the time to wish you good morning and goodnight because you’re on their mind.
Understand that you’re worth more than being disappointed. Wait for the person who plans dates and pulls through, who you can count on. Wait for someone that fights for the relationship and who aims to grow alongside you.
Don’t let the status of others influence your own. Wait for the partner that challenges you, who wants you to have the most out of life and will never let you settle. Wait for uncontrollable laughter and passionate sex, a best friend and your lover.
Wait for the day your heart finds a home in someone else.
Wait for the moment the fear of losing them is greater than the fear of being alone, because what’s worse than being single is being in the wrong relationship.
So, the next time you’re ‘saving the date’ don’t worry about finding a date of your own. Time is relative, embrace the wait.