Great Love

Great love moves you, it moves all of you…

It hits you like a Spring morning.
The brisk air, warm sun, sound of life all around you, the realization of a fresh start.

Great love feels like the home you never knew you missed.
Before it you were a wanderer, now suddenly you found a reason to stay still.
But when the ground becomes shaky, when those four walls start the crumble,
You don’t shatter, you disappear.
Rendered homeless.

No matter how many nights you fall asleep telling yourself it’ll be okay, deep down you know it won’t.
You feel it in your dreams, in your waking breath.
But that’s okay too.
His absence isn’t a void that needs to be filled.
He is irreplaceable, and that’s what great love does, it changes you.

While others are telling you to move on, to let it go, you can’t.
A piece of you will always hold him, will always love him and will always want to.
That doesn’t mean you’re stuck, it means you’re human.
And being human isn’t about closing our hearts to heal, it’s keeping them open to let life in.

All of it. The pain and the ecstasy.

Everyone who has experienced great love also risked losing it.
Except the truth is you never lose it, you cherish it.
Every look. Every touch. Every tear.
You’ll never be the same and you’re eternally grateful for it. For him.
With each passing day, each exhale of heartache, you’re still living.

Great love moved you, it moved you forward.

 

DEDICATED TO ALL THE INDIVIDUALS OUT THERE LOOKING TO MAKE SENSE OF THE PAST. CARRY YOUR GREAT LOVE WITH YOU AND REALIZE HOW MUCH STRONGER YOU ARE BECAUSE OF IT.

 

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Daily Fitness: Talking Rodan + Fields

This article first appeared in the January 24, 2018 issue of The Independent Newspaper

The beauty of skincare is that it affects us all. You’ve likely seen advertisements across social media, or heard word-of-mouth, about a friend of a friend selling a popular skincare line, Rodan + Fields. But what’s it really about? After receiving samples to give it a try, I caught up with New York native consultant, Gaby Astrauskas-Rosenzweig.

 

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Gaby with the Redefine Products from R+F

How does R+F differ from other skincare lines?

Being a consultant with Rodan + Fields I am able to give my customers one on one attention, long after any purchase that a department store would not usually provide. That is one of the biggest reasons why we differ from other top competitors. On my website you can find a solution tool by answering a few questions about your skin concerns and there will be an instant suggestion on what would be the best regimen for you. Also R+F is the #1 Premium Skincare Brand in North America, co-founded by Stamford trained and practicing dermatologists, Dr. Katie Rodan & Dr. Kathy Fields who also successfully co-founded ProActiv Solution.

Who can use it and what skin types should be careful? Are there known allergic reactions?

R+F has four different regimens for all different skin types:

• Redefine Regimen targets fine lines, wrinkles and firmness.

• Reverse Regimen targets age spots, sun damage and dullness.

• Soothe Regimen targets sensitive skin like redness and calming dry skin.

• Unblemish Regimen targets acne and works to combat the entire acne cycle.

Aside from these multi-med therapy regimens we also have some other products that work with most skin types if not all.

What’s the latest product launch?

Some of our most recent product launches are:

• Active Hydration Serum, which is an oil-free super serum that boosts your skins hydration by 200 percent in just one use.

• Active Hydration Bright Eye Complex, visibly improves the appearance of dark circles and puffiness.

• Intensive Renewing Serum, which delivers Retinal-MD technology that is 20 times the strength of Retinol to reduce the appearance of fine lines, wrinkles and loss of firmness.

• Amp MD Micro-Exfoliating Roller works in combination with our Intensive Renewing Serum to accelerate and amplify your skin-firming results.

• LashBoost, our nightly conditioning serum improves the appearance of lash volume and lash length fro lashes that are 100 percent real and 100 percent yours!

What’s the typical time it takes for users to see results?

Rodan + Fields is formulated to be a multi-med therapy when used together. If you follow the directions and use as followed, typically results can be noticed as early as four weeks but I would allow at least eight weeks and if you’re not satisfied within 60 days you can send the bottle back (even if it’s empty) for a money back guarantee.

What made you become a consultant?

Having a second stream of income — or some can call it a “Plan B” — always intrigued me but I never knew where or how to start! While attending a friend’s business launch with Rodan + Fields almost four years ago, I actually was in need of skincare products for my upcoming wedding. Trying the products first-hand and receiving unsolicited compliments on my skin, I quickly decided to jump in feet first! I was not a skincare expert or sales person but I believed in the products, received results and wanted to share my story to make a difference in others.

It can be very scary starting something new especially when your plate is already so full but working my virtual business in pockets of my time made this new venture that much easier. This turnkey business was something that changed my life especially now that I am a Mom.

Tell me about YOU.

As a New Yorker, I find myself always on the go! After graduating Hofstra University, I moved cross-country to Los Angeles to pursue my career in television, more specifically, reality television. Working in television having long 12-plus hour days, this business makes it was hard to really know how to slow down but I always knew I wanted something of my own.

While working on a set in Los Angeles, I met my husband Joe, a Long Island native. Right before our wedding, I came across Rodan + Fields through one of my best friends who was just launching her own business. This obviously intrigued me and I was looking to try some new skincare products to prep my skin for my wedding! I was not a skincare junkie; actually I did very little for my skin until this moment.

Now almost four years later after taking a chance on myself, I’ve been able to work my business while being a full-time mom and still freelance producing part-time. My plan B ended up being my plan A when I was laid-off from my dream TV job during my maternity leave. I would say on average I work 15 hours a week in pockets of my time. But the best part is we are bi-coastal, I can work from anywhere and anytime.

 

Feel free to message or befriend her on Facebook; Gaby Astrauskas- Rosenzweig or follow her on Instagram @Gabija526. www.gma.myrandf.com.

Intrigued to learn about the results? I’ll be testing the “Give it a Glow” kit from the Redefine Anti-Aging Regiment and the Active Hydration Serum, perfectly suited for the winter months.

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FIN Montauk: A Deeper Side to Jewelry

This article first appeared in the January 28, 2018 issue of The Independent Newspaper

 

Bella Ornaf dubs herself not just a jewelry designer but a “shark wrangler.”

Strictly speaking, the term means “someone who takes a string and wraps it around a fish tail or a fish head and then throws it into the water” to try and get a sharks attention, thereby inviting the majestic creature to come closely to a diver’s cage for a personalized experience. Loosely redefined, she is a woman bringing the depths of the wild ocean to customers bold enough to wear her adventurous creations through her jewelry shop FIN Montauk, a jewelry company focusing on creating wearable fossilized shark teeth.

“It was always difficult for me to find and build my own personal jewelry collection,” said Ornaf, who founded FIN in 2013, adding that in her own style she prefers jewelry creations to “be unique, one-of-a-kind and timeless, otherwise I pass right by them, not my style.” Growing up she had a thing for sharks, despite the rougher connotation. “Sharks weren’t the ‘girly’ thing to like but I’ve never been one to follow the pack.”

That same train of thinking has influenced her adventurous jewelry.

It’s FIN’s mission to instill hope, meaning, education, and strength from each of the pieces it makes. It also makes a yearly donation to non-profits supporting shark conservation.

“We’ve seen products made in China, which, again, goes against our values as we care for human beings,” Ornaf empathically explained. “We have no idea who is making the pieces, what their wages and ages are, and what chemicals are going into the product, and thus into our environment.”

Ornaf is a first generation American from Bronxville, New York, which is a stark difference to the surfer town she resides in today. She is a globetrotter with former addresses including Poland and Norway. Inspiration has been all around her from fine Polish artisans to the “organic natural beauty of the fjords,” she says.

“I came to Montauk for the sharks, stayed for the sharks,” Ornaf chuckled. In an ironic contrast, her husband, James Katsipis, who is a photographer, essentially swims with sharks while taking pictures of local surfers. “We’re both water people and creative, so it’s only natural that both our professions are ocean-based, it’s where our hearts lie.”

Most shark jewelry is made with modern shark teeth but FIN takes a unique approach. The company, which is ethically against killing sharks, strictly uses fossilized shark teeth, roughly 30 million years old, and promises no replicas. Each one is found 200 feet down around treacherous, undisclosed locations throughout the Atlantic Ocean by Captain Chuck Wade of the Sea Turtle.

Diamonds may be a girl’s best friend. However, a Megalodon fossil tooth is the best friend that takes your hand and promises one heck of an adventure. Ornaf uses fossils of Megalodon teeth from the extinct species of shark that swam the oceans millions of years ago. The Megalodon, which means “big tooth,” had an estimated length of 60 feet. The largest intact tooth found was over seven inches.

Each tooth is placed on a deerskin lace cord, with plans to use alternative material. A less heavy version of the necklace features a gold vermeil chain. The Gold Dipped Charmed FIN comes on a black, waxed, cotton cord, with the cast pieces on a chain.

Maintenance of the jewelry seems contradictory for the average Montauk resident, or visitor in summertime. Keeping anything away from dirt, oils, or salt water in an area surrounded by waves is nearly impossible. To help, the teeth are placed in a reusable, muslin drawstring bag, which is best for absorbing oils. Use it for more than just jewelry — your wallet, coins or any little treasure.

Right now there are necklaces, cufflinks, rings and ear bites, ranging in price from $100 and up. However, after an insightful discussion with a Costa Rican artisan, new designs are on the way. “You’ll have to wait and see, but it’s going to be killer!” Ornaf said. Yet, nothing brings pride like seeing a piece being worn.

“[I feel] like I’ve done something good, and I always wonder how [the person’s] feeling wearing it, and hoping it’s empowered, magical, and unstoppable.”

There are plans for popups in West Palm Beach in February and Costa Rica in March. Other notable colleagues assisting in FIN Montauk are Rebekah Harris of Silverella, Jose Gomez Davidson of J.A.G.D. Jewels, and Annie Gutheridge of Bimini Shark Lab. Other colleagues include Memory Motel, Amanda Beckmann from Montauk Beach House and Navy Beach, Girl Tauk, Gloria Jewel, The Golden Eagle, and Montauk Hard Label.

FIN Montauk is located at 692 Montauk Highway during high season. Follow them on social media @finmontauk, tag them using #finmontauk. Want to learn more? Visit www.finmontauk.com or email info@finmontauk.com

 

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Innovation Meets Transformation

This article first appeared in the January 24, 2018 issue of The Independent Newspaper

Up until a few short weeks ago East End entrepreneurs had dispiriting options of where to work. Home isn’t a suitable place for business meetings and local coffee shops provide more chaos of passerby’s than professional growth. Now, a location with world wide recognition for its creativity and beauty has a space to aid its ingenious businesses.

Welcome to The Spur, a by-invitation, members only co-working space targeting creative entrepreneurs on Long Island’s East End. In partnership with Southampton Social Club, The Spur launched on January 8 in its recognizable 256 Elm Street pop-up location in Southampton deally suited for those commuting off the train, walking down the street or driving in from Montauk. As the first of its kind in the area, it’s divided up by three zones. A dedicated desk are, with eight desks including two standing desks custom designed by California Closets, a lounge area with enough room for 40 people to work and have open meetings, and the conference room for privacy.

“Its a combination of two business models. WeWork is one and Soho House is the other,” Ashley John Heather, The Spur and i-Hamptons founder detailed.

“The Spur is a home for innovators. If you’re innovating, creating a product, creating something new, transforming the industry,” Heather explained.

The industry focus remains on media & tech, health & wellness, food/beverage & retail, a contrast to the typical concept of real estate and construction in the area.

John Wagner of Mighty Insights says community is the biggest benefit to joining.

“It’s what drives motivation and innovation around specific industries. It’s what built Silicon Valley into the beast it is today. The Hamptons are no different. There is an energy that exists when entrepreneurs work close to each other… As my company, Might Insights, is in the tech space and focused on data, it’s an opportunity for me to talk with other people and companies in my space.”

Memberships begin at $100 a month and range from Core options such as Local and Weekender to Alternative options for those 27-years-old and under to Moonlight. The Local Membership includes access to a dual location in New York City, located at 21 West 46th Street, called WorkHouse. However, there’s a vetting process before you can do business, or talk business, with likeminded individuals. Unlike WeWork, where renting space grants access, The Spur aims to strengthen the community through varied commonality. A membership committee of six people review each online application, which must be referred by an already existing member. Only upon a quick interview, to sense a prospecting members personality, vibe is everything, and tour will new innovators be considered.

As with any successful endeavor, business takes passion and admiration. Similarly to the philanthropic attitude of the area, The Spur cares for those around it. “Part of what we’re trying to do is give back to the community. We have a not for profit called i-Hamptons…through that we organize courses and events for the community…We have a big annual event called Rip Tide, Sink or Swim, which is like Shark Tank….[we want to] leverage the fact that there are some wealthy, successful individuals out here,” Heather emphasized.

“Our goal here is to connect the 20s, 40s, 60s, I’m saying that as a broad range. The young who are just getting started, out of college…to encourage them to stay and know there is a place you can come and learn and start something.”

In connecting the freshly thinking 20s, the those in their 40s who are potentially moving back after a stint at city life to those retirees in their 60s aiming to start something back up again, there’s an advisory council. The council boasts a three person team of Kathleen King, founder of Tates Bake Shop, David Bonnett, founder of Geocities, Bruce Bockmann, former Chairman of Techspace and Porter Bibb, founder of MediaTech capital partners, all of which will mentor members in building business.

Heather added, “We’re trying to stop the brain drain of all the 20 year olds leaving and we’re trying to build the next generation of year round businesses. So the town is less seasonal and more financially sustainable.”

Weekdays at 5PM members are invited to the Innov8 Speaker Series. M.A.D. Mondays, covering marketing, art & design across creative, digital marketing and social media. Tech Tuesdays, discussing innovative showcases across software and hardware. Wellness Wednesdays focus on the individual entrepreneur health, stress and time management. Thirsty Thursdays fills in on the newest trends in food and drink. Future Fridays, a mystery mag of fun topics for the upcoming year. “It’s kind of like further education. You get to learn, develop new skills, network between people. If you’re working on a business you can present it to the members who are all very adoptive in their own areas…It’s a whole culture and way of life,” described Ashley.

Meg Farrell, CEO of Huntley Global and Chief Marketing Officer of Aromox, feels ‘a sense of relief as an entrepreneur.’

“There is a certain divinity and positive light when authentic, like-minded people understand the journey as creator, developer, innovator and entrepreneur. As a collective membership supportive of one another in a co-working environment, men and women will break open the glass ceiling with steadfast innovation in 2018,” Farrell envisioned. Having attended three Innov8 speaker events thus far, her experience says it all.

“The Innov8 series is continuing education but the best kind – relaxed time for brain rest outside of your work, while cross training your mind with a variety of fascinating innovative concepts in an interactive setting. It’s an entrepreneur educational movement that benefits the members, and will impact the east end community. The members think beyond themselves, in order to make an imprint for the betterment of a sustainable lifestyle at home and at work.”

In a mix of work hard play hard, complimentary breakfast refreshments are offered 8AM to 11AM, including premium local brands like Hampton Coffee Company and Plain-T. Newly installed, for the healthier inclined, is Kombucha on tap. A lunch menu focusedon local cuisine is available 11AM to 4PM and happy hour begins at 5PM at the bar serving local beer, wine and infused spirits- just in time for Innov8 hour. Come Summer 2018 The Spur will move into a permanent, 10,000sqft facility in Southampton Village that will include a food court with 10×10 space from local businesses, a wellness studio highlighting the fitness community in the area and local liquor company partnerships.

While the businesses model landscape is changing, The Spur incites innovation at its best. Connecting the community, collaborating with individuals and creating a home. The next great idea is only a membership away.

Southampton is the hub with phase two underway to expand over the entire East End. Locations include Quogue, Sag Harbor, East Hampton, Montauk and Greenport. For more information visit www.thespur.com.

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Daily Fitness: Treat Grief As An Injury

This article first appeared in the January 17, 2018 issue of The Independent Newspaper

 

After the recent loss of a family member just prior to the New Year, I’ve experienced numerous changes ranging from lack of motivation, social isolation, and physical ailments. The sayings “broken heart,” “sick with grief,” and “hole inside” have become increasingly relevant to my daily struggles. As the days roll on, whether it’s denial or inexperience, I wage an inner battle to feel normal again.

What I failed to do, and still have trouble accepting, is allowing myself to heal. Grief takes numerous forms and no two people handle it the same. Once I understood this, my viewpoint shifted.

 

Like breaking a bone or falling ill, bereavement is an injury with a recovery process. I wouldn’t expect to hit the gym after spraining an ankle or eat a tremendous meal after having the stomach flu, so why did I expect to live a normal life so soon after the death of a loved one?

The facts are that grief causes physical changes in the body. Hair thinning, weight loss, irregular heartbeat, increase blood pressure, weakness, and headaches. In my case, also acute anxiety attacks. Emotionally, grief tires us out, causes us to become more critical, along with lack of motivation, social anxiety, and a sense of isolation. Spiritually, we question our faith, our motives, and what life is all about.

But how can we cope with grief?

Surround ourselves with positive people. Reaching out to others during times of loss can seem debilitating. We expect an outpouring of consolation but the reality is that loss affects the few, and the world for the rest goes on.

Think of those who bring joy, sympathy, and even a distraction to everyday life. Family and close friends are first, but don’t be shy to reach out to a new acquaintance with an optimistic attitude as well. Call them, see them, ask for their help in guiding you back to a place of positivity. In order to change our outlook, we have to seek those who are understanding and capable of assisting. It’s okay to ask for help.

Find a new routine, similar to our old one. Death is irreversible and life after loss will never be the same as it once was. If the person lost was a part of your daily life, such as mine was, their physical absence becomes a black hole. No more morning coffee, phone calls, car rides to the grocery store, greetings upon entering the door.

With that said, we need to switch up the old routine to find comfort in what’s ahead. Try a new workout class at the existing gym, test a new cooking recipe, wake up a few minutes earlier, explore a new coffee shop, change the traditional commute. Little, seemingly insignificant, alterations to our existing routine provide comfort that life does indeed go on. Yet it still acknowledges the memories we’ve made.

Practice mindfulness. We get so wrapped up in the past during the coping process that we lose sight of the present moment. Amid the chaos of “what ifs” and “back whens” is what’s happening right now, this present instant.

Numerous times I’ve become so dizzy from all the head spinning that I’ve started a new mantra. “I am present. I am here. This is real.” I’ve become aware of my breathing, deepening each breath. By rooting ourselves in the present we start to take life as it comes to us and look forward, not backward.

I’m learning as I go that there is no such thing as normal for me right now. I go from optimistic extrovert to isolated introvert in a minute’s time. One day I’m my old self and the next I feel guilty for living when someone else is not.

But I’m realizing that’s okay. The silver lining is that I get to experience this and the chance to continue on. I carry my loved one’s memory with me every step of the way and, in that, they never truly die. Rather than see their loss as a darkness they have become an ever-guiding light, the strength within me.

This article is dedicated to Gloria.

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